How to be free to do what you want.

Where is that wonderful ‘free feeling’ that I could do whatever I want?

Here’s what I noticed: A long time ago, I thought that complaining about what I do not want will have it go away. Somehow, it will disappear. The more I thought about what I do not like, the more it became pronounced for me. The more I complained out loud about it, it became more and more real it became.

I would see objects that would remind me of the things I am experiencing NOW that I do not like, and what I didn’t like became more magnified. It stayed alive and real for me. And I became miserable. When I talked about it, looked at it, dreamed about it, visualized it, searched for what I wanted so badly…it rarely ever came. There was always a …distance. I became more and more resigned, and unhappy.

Then, one day I realized what I was doing was looking at it all wrong.

Backwards actually.

This is what I came to realize.The things in life that I wanted the most, I would say, “I wish I had”“When is it going to happen?” , “…because of my situation, that is why I cannot have it.”

‘Everything that is coming into your life, you are attracting it into your life.Everything that is gong on in your mind, you are attracting to you.’ –The Secret

Like a magnet, I attracted and brought towards me the very things that I said to myself…“I hate the fact that I am not painting right now.”So, what would happen is exactly that. I would not be painting. I am not painting. Painting never happens. I keep it not happening by keep on saying that.

So, I tried something different. I said to myself. “I am going to paint tomorrow. I will set aside three hours. I will start painting at 3 o’clock.”

I painted.

Another example; “I hate that my body looks this way. I wish I could work out more.” I repeat that over and over and over. I complain about how I never have time or money to work out. The more I say that, the more it stays true. The more it stays in place. It becomes reality. I do not work out. What actually happens is stay out of shape, because I stay away from the gym to be RIGHT about the fact that I am not working out. See? It perpetuates.

So basically what I am focusing on, where I put my concentration, is what will perpetuate. This is the best news of all. If I am keeping in place what I don’t want, then if I put into place what I do want, I change my circumstances, I look forward to doing and having what I want. I plan for it, I make it happen. Then it happens.

What I want becomes real. I end up having everything I want in life. I become essentially ‘Free to do and have whatever I want.” Imagine that.