How to be a mom & kick butt in the work force!

My Story

When I first met my husband I was already working as a single mom, so working was not a new phenomenon to me. However, I had not made anything, really, that I could be proud of in the work force. I just worked to make money. My husband opened the world of creativity and making a difference to me. I painted, and he showed me how I can make money with my art, and my children’s art. I loved to write, and he showed me how I can make my writing available to the world. He saw I loved to ‘produce’, so I started as a production assistant, and producers assistant on the sets of the films he was making. I had already put in seven years in the Entertainment business, but only as an actor. Learning the ‘behind the scenes’ was beyond fascinating. I was hooked. So after years of living for our films, and our films living for us…I became a co-producer, and the rest is history. And, we literally made history. Here is a link to our official website, Moro Films. And also, my husband’s blog. It will break down all the films, what new projects, and what awards, press, etc did we receive.

As for the kids, I was pregnant working, I took the kids on set, my teenagers helped me stuff DVD packages. I included them in our ‘family business’. I have been afforded the luxury to have them travel with us, and to integrate them into our lifestyle in film-making. Our offices are at home. We have also utilized a ‘home away from home’, a wonderful woman who helps us with our kids, when we can’t take them to work. It has worked out beautifully. My husband and I alternate our transporting the kids, and also watching them, while I am in class or he is at work…or I am. We make it work. We have hefty calenders, and a sense of humor and a workability with each other that is just hard to beat. I definitely have a team with my husband.

If you have no idea how to even start having a busy life outside the home, traveling, and working with babies or infants…the best advice I can say is: plan your work, and work your plan. Take baby steps. One day at a time. The calender will be your best friend. Stay in communication. Give advance notice. Remain calm. You could be overwhelmed if you start thinking you can’t do. It is not a matter of ‘can’t’. It is a matter of; how. So, you break it down. Get specific. Powerful mothers/women are specific. We handle the details, calling in advance, re-confirming, getting Map Quest ahead of time, laying it out the night before, planning your reading time, planning your outings with kids, play dates, your work schedule. It is 100% do-able. It will get fun. I have a blast watching my life work the way I want it to because I stay specific. I fight the lazy brain. I have re-trained my brain to not procrastinate, do everything last minute. I give a ‘by when’ I will have things done, give my word, or promise. I also ask for help. Do not be afraid to ask for help. People love to contribute. Ask for support, reminders, or favors, or simply have them hold you to something. I ask my husband with this all the time, what would he like support in. This is the two of you making it happen. And if it is only you, than you are power x2!

 

If you are thinking there is no way you can do this, this is for other people…think again. This is for everyone. I dragged my heals (the Taurus in me) all the way to being powerful. I liked being lazy. I liked having other people think for me. I liked having no schedule, I liked having excuses, I liked not being held accountable or responsible. I liked people not wanting to depend on me. I liked being a victim, so people could feel sorry for me. I liked living in the ‘I can’t world’. I liked finding short cuts, and easy roads. I liked being ignorant of the world, I liked not having to do anything. Blah! A big blob of skin saying, “this is how I want to live my life.” Well, I am going to tell you what. If I were to hold my life now, against the life I had, I could cry how much I would choose being who I am today over who I was then. The impact it has made on my family alone, has been mind blowing. The results in my children, my teenagers. I will never go back. I like finding solutions, I like thinking, solving problems, I like learning, discovering, inventing. I love being at the source of my life, I love showing my children how to have a kick-ass, powerful life. I love the life I live. You can too.

Here is some added tools for your tool belt. This is a world-wide organization that totally will blow your mind in training you in how to live the life you want, and create a life worth living.  . Click on the little interactive video introduction in the far upper right hand side. Tell them Bobbi sent you. ; )